Sometimes You Don't have to be the Bigger Person

Hi blog, Do you even have a name? I don't recall ever giving you one. Very unlike me. Anyway, happiest new year. Even though it's February. I won't be boring you with the cliches ie New year, new me etc. I don't believe in those. So, a lot has happened in the last 35 days. A lot has changed. But a lot has also remained the same. I won't go into details... I've always believed that hyenas don't really change their spots. Mwana wa njoka ndi njoka yemwe... etc. Today I strongly confirm all of the above ... Humans don't really change who they are. Bad and good habits have a way of resurfacing when not expected. No matter how long some habits stay hidden, they one day make that necessary come-back. Just so you know, I'm back to biting my nails. A bad habit I had long struggled to give up... All it took was one trigger. The last 35 days have taught me that no matter how far and beyond you go to do good for others, it's never enough. Most humans are innately selfish. They just take till you have nothing left to give. Bloodsuckers. The day you say no, you become a villain in their eyes. Learn those boundaries. Learn where and when to draw that final line. The Bible says when one slaps you in one cheek, offer them the other cheek. I advise you not to listen to this nonsense advise. The last 35 days have taught me never allow anyone near enough to give you a slap. But in a case where you don't see that slap coming, always return the favour four- fold. Slap the heck back. Life isn't fair for rugs and doormats. There's a difference between being nice and being weak. Don't let anyone abuse you in the name of love or family. To make is simpler, go back to the title of the blog: SOMETIMES YOU DONT HAVE TO BE THE BIGGER PERSON!!!!